How to manage anger

Pros and cons of anger

Anger has a bad rap, but anger can be a good thing. It can motivate you to stand up for yourself, your family, your rights, injustice, country, beliefs, and even your friends. 

But being angry can get out of control and cause you and those around you unnecessary grief. 

Why do we need to manage our anger?

Managing your anger is the key to creating a better and happier life for yourself and the people around you. By managing your anger, you can benefit yourself, your family, friends, community, and country. Anger management is learning how to regulate your anger.

No one likes to be angry. In fact, most people do not want to be angry! However, there are times when anger is unavoidable. If you feel mad, you must learn how to manage your anger. 

What to do when I feel angry?

When you are angry, it is customary to react in a way that you feel is the safest. But unfortunately, this is not always the best way to get yourself or others to feel good. 

For example, when you are angry at someone, you may think that the best way to handle the situation is to lash out at the other person. However, this is rarely successful. 

Instead, it is best to try and calm down and find a way to handle your anger more positively. 

If you have anger issues, here are some tips that can help you manage anger in your life.

Managing anger is a skill that takes practice. Still, there are several techniques you can use to lower your anger level and improve your ability to manage your anger.

Know when you are angry

The first step to managing anger is to know when you are angry. Unfortunately, many people think that they are mad all of the time – this is usually not true. 

When you feel angry, you will notice that your body will be tense, and you may even feel like you want to cry. These physical responses show that your body tells you that you are angry. 

Know what made you angry

It is also essential that you recognize what made you angry. For example, if a co-worker was not careful with paperwork or was cutting you off in traffic, you will feel anger. 

Anger is an emotion, feeling, or reaction. When angry, try and understand why you are mad. Does something make you angry?

 Realize your anger.

Understand your anger.

Understand why you are angry. Understand what triggers your anger. Understanding your anger helps you deal with it.

Let You feel your anger.

Anger will not last forever. Instead, you will usually feel mad for only a few minutes. When feeling anger, do not suppress it; instead, express it. Don’t bottle up everything you are feeling inside because eventually, it will come out in the wrong way. 

Give yourself time.

An excellent way to control your anger is to give yourself time to process any event before you react. If you respond too quickly, your anger may escalate. 

Don’t let anger take control of your life.

Don’t hold on to anger. Don’t beat yourself up over being angry. Don’t keep thinking and thinking about being angry.

When angry, try to stay calm. Let go of your anger – don’t hold to it.

Breathing and muscle exercises.

Try and find ways to control your muscles. For example, do some physical activities – sports, dance, take a walk. Another way is to try deep breathing. Breathing deeply and filling your lungs with air can help relax tense muscles. You’ll also feel calmer and more in control.

Talk it out

Talk it out. Talk to someone you trust who can understand you. Talk to a therapist or friend. It usually is hard to comprehend anger on your own, so you need the help of others. You need a supportive person or people who understand you and can understand what you feel.

If you need professional help, contact me.